good sayings gone bad

Most of us are taught a cautionary saying that "whatever it is that we condemn in each other is that which also exists in ourselves."

But that saying is wrong. Corrupted and changed to reflect a very child-like worldview that the everything and all beings in the world come down to a relation that orginates in ourselves. No matter what is going on or who we are with, we - the great big 'I' is all that they are a reflection of.

The source for the saying is Carl Jung and what he actually said is this:

"What irritates you in another will lead to a greater understanding of yourself."

The other remains separate but we gain a greater understandings of our own prejudices, rules and boundaries by learning to examine what we choose to reject in another. The other remains their own separate being, divorced from a responsibility of mirroring our beings, we are challenged instead to examine our inner workings and how they effect how we relate to that which is not of us.