Why

if you are trying to make changes in your life, to avoid patterns and cycles and find that no matter what you do it keeps happening (the great big whatever)

there is something simple you can try that is proving to be the most effective thing I have ever done to change my life.

and that is to ask yourself the question "Why?"

Not, "Why cannot I change or stick to things or keep getting in the same situation over and over?"

But everytime you go to do something - from going to the bathroom, to having a conversation, to writing an email - anything, any type of action....ask yourself "Why am I doing this and why am I doing this right now?"

and listen to your answer.

Then decide if you think, pretend you are a Parent and you are listening to your child explain why they want to do something or are in the middle of doing something, decide if you think that is in the child's best interest at the moment or should they be doing something else.

Practice being detached enough from yourself to become able to guide yourself to what you know is good for you and will bring you to the life you want.