what does it look like?

if you are like me,

you may have a little bit more experience with repeating relationships with people that you really shouldn't have. Not the same person mind you, but the same type. And...if you are like me, you probably are at the point where when you meet someone who will prove to be this type you should avoid, your internal alarms bells go off and if you are like me, you write about the realization and recognition of those red flags in your journal...and then you go ahead and ignore them.

:)

and repeat history...again

well try this, someone just showed me this and so far it has been working.

Take a moment to sit by yourself and think about all the whoevers that you have been involved with that were not good relationships for you. Think about what it was that made it harmful to you (needy, deceitful, mistrusting, co-dependent whatever)

then draw the look on their face that you remember most  - just the shape of the eyes and the mouth, like you were making a police sketch of a subject.

You will find that there is a common "look" or "expression" shared by the people in your history who had similar patterns of behavior towards you or who brought out a pattern in you. It could be that their eyes looked "hungry" or that their mouth was pursed like it tasted sour.

Look at the sketch and then compare it in your mind to the new faces you meet. Like you are looking for a suspect, only in this case, it is a suspect to avoid.

How we tend to relate to others and the world shows in our faces. Especially when we think no one is looking.