Consider this

Guilt is one of the most pervasive feelings that we have and yet is often the least recognized. We search and search for why we keep engaging in the same patterns, having the same relationships and making the same mistakes but we miss the fact that often what keeps us in this repetitive mode is a cycle of guilt.

This guilt usually comes from something that is not realistic, but is very real to us in how we feel it and then act around it. And often this guilt originates in a very formative relationship where we feel or were told that we were responsible for a love relationship failing. Whether that relationship be between family members, friends or intimate partners we internalized that guilt and assign ourselves even more.

Convinced of our unworthiness we either overcompensate and then overwhelm ourselves, or recreate the same situation again and again to ensure that our feelings of guilt are reinforced.

Guilt can also camoflauge our feelings of low self-esteem by masking them and making them seem justified because we can point to a cause.

Consider this, if you were to take a walk - slowly - back through time and through all of your relationships, which ones do you have feelings of guilt about and rationally, do you truly deserve to feel guilty? You don't have to suddenly feel "not guilty" that will take time, but it might be a good idea to know what guilt you carry so you can begin to explore the means to forgiveness.